so here's the situation

i am supposed to go to NZ for my PhD at the end of this year while my wife will give birth to my new son anytime in this month. my convocation is at the end of this month and my parents want to move back to KL early next year. my brother's probably getting married next year and i'd be away. by the time my wife can follow me to NZ my son will already be almost 1 year old.......thats just not okay with me. i want to enjoy what every father does, playing with their newborn. hmmmm.....i have to go by the end of this year or the chance will pass by me. well......that is career life i suppose. i wouldnt even want to start on the bureaucracy.